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Our Nepali Wedding

By Gauri with the help of her ESOL classmates: Madhu , Durga, Goma, and her teacher, Rebecca Kidder

My daughter, Tila, got married in October. She wore a red sari, red blouse, and a green necklace that Tila's husband gave her to wear. All married Nepali women wear necklaces. She also wore a necklace Ganga, my husband, and I made for her. It was made of green leaves sewed onto a necklace. Tila also wore a necklace her husband gave her. Tila wore white sandals with a red, yellow, and green scarf covering her head. Red is meant to be a lucky color. A necklace was placed within my daughter's hair which was in an up do (bun). A gold ring was worn and a henna decoration with rust colored paint was on her hands and legs. Tila's husband wore a Nepali hat, a suit, tie, sneakers. Tila gave him a ring. When the husband's family came to my home, Tila gave her husband a necklace.

The two priests were Tika and Netra. They placed a tika, made of red colored powder mixed with yogurt and rice, on the foreheads of people attending while they were praying. Ganga and I received a tika first followed by Tila then all the other people. There were seven hours of reading and praying. Everyone was crying on Tila's side of the family. The husband's side was clapping and happy. (It is a Nepali tradition for the bride and groom to move in with the groom’s parents after the wedding).

People who were there listened and prayed while the priests spoke. Tila's husband, Darthma, gave her a ring, a necklace, a bracelet, a watch and an ankle bracelet called a pajeb. Finally, we ate and drank and had a party. Some foods that were made were bread and pulao. Pulao is rice, milk, sugar, little peanuts mixed together. It is fried in butter and then it is put into a big, big, bowl to serve. When all the partying was complete, people went home.

Finally, Tila and Darthma went to Boston after the party.

Ganga, Gauri and their family were resettled by Lutheran Social Services in Concord.